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what is Pyar?

I always wanted to stick to the notion of the 1950's pyar hua ikraar hua rain soaked heavy love,
Par ye year 2k mein iss pyar ka kya hua?

Magazines like Cosmopolitan and others treat it like a game, giving weird tips such as don't make your guy feel like your'e too into him, don't always make yourself available, don't give surprise gifts...

But then by playing all this hard to get, do you actually keep the romance alive?

Surprise, when you get to books and articles which talk about how to bring back the spark in your relationship they speak about the same things in a definite U turn,

Give surprises, be there for each other, make yourself available etc,

I think love has not changed, what has changed is the intrinsic human core, from the generosity of our grand parents to the miserliness of the teenagers, each human now wants to know what he can get from the other before even squeezing a lemon drop of a favor for the other. Which is why each relation has changed to become unworthy of the new pitiful creature we like to call an evolved being

Why have we become like this??

I guess the answer lies in cultural influence (I'm wondering if it's really utter Americanization I mean) Think of how you've become like this, demarcating people you need, throwing out those you don't, and being affable only when you need something.

Why don't we try being Indian for a while, welcoming guests with a smile, giving generously, loving everyone, without trying to be assertive (the word which has spelt trouble for most Indians who try to be assertive but are really on the border of aggressive, submissive etc... whatever!). Try being what we are instead of what fake foreign made copy paste magazines tell us to do....

Hopefully, we will try and solve the dilemma of love and of human kind.... And be more natural and less fake in the bargain..





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GP MISHRA said…
Thank Godddd!!!There's is still a soul from that extinct lot.They've not become American Sugandha.Its just that in a crude western following without understanding a bit of that culture,they've lost their identity.No one in right senses would clear them for a westerner on the entire globe, and Indian they are not as they tend and wish to appear.
Only a lady could have dared to be so straight.
The cultural web harmonizing our music,Songs, relations, rituals, apparel,colours,films,hobbies,culture and subculture and a whole lot more,with which the common Indian could identify and get delighted are becoming things of past for if not anything else then the mockery filled disapproval coming from
the peers, sups and subs in that order.
This reminds me a story of a villager who accidentally cut and lost his nose.Whenever someone tried to tease him he would start claiming that through this act he was actually able to see God.Out of curiosity few others got their nose cut,only to be told by the original one to pretend seeing God to avoid teasers.
Gradually all except one sensible guy got their noses cut.
Since he was the only one with nose they would all tease him rather then he doing it.
I hope you are not the only one with this sensible thought.At least I am with you and hope that few more would build up courage to support this idea.
The entire village is not noseless yet.Kudos!!
8:45 am
sugandha bhandari said…
thanks very much fr your comments and the example is really apt.... just curious how did you get to my blog?
10:00 am
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